(don't miss chapter 10 -- posted just before this)
ok - I wrote something here
and now I want it gone
I don't want to preserve exactly how I feel right now
I want to put it away
so I'm writing over it
M and I are struggling
and -- we want it to work
but we don't know how
and that's all you need to know
Communicate, communicate, communicate. Talk, discuss, cry, scream, write and communicate.
ReplyDeleteAnd of course: take it one day at a time.
Don't get discouraged by what went wrong yesterday, do it right today. Don't feel too sure because last week was great, make today great
And communicate, trust, respect, love, and communicate.
Hugs, Julia
No words, just virtual hugs. We're here for you.
ReplyDeleteaisha
@Julia -- I appreciate your advice -- we are actually over communicators -- but sometimes what we have to talk about is not fun.
ReplyDelete@Aisha -- thank you sis
sfp
I feel like I'm living the same thing -- I hope good things for you!
ReplyDelete-sin
@Sin -- we'll see -- we're going to figure it out -- but I think we will look different on the other side
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so sorry that you are struggling. It sucks. There are no other words. So we cry and ....it still sucks.
ReplyDeleteSending hugs. Shoulder bumps (you know, considering your personal space needs...(smile)...I mean...and know that we are here to support you no matter what.
Love you, sis.
nilla
Thanks Nilla -- yeah -- it does suck
DeleteOk, can I play devil's advocate and be a realist for a minute? Please? Feel free to delete this if not.
ReplyDeleteSometimes you have to try to take the emotion out of it. We are struggle with things in our relationships. There are ups and downs and bumps in the road. Sometimes the bums are annoying and sometimes they are a fun ride. Not knowing about your situation, I will offer this... these struggles can bring you closer. The time and effort you put into it, and what you go through together can make what you have stronger. You also have to decide, though, are the struggles worth it. Are you together because it's convenient, what feels normal, and what you are used to, or are you together because you care and truly want to be together. At times we all have to take stock and look at the big picture to decide if we are better off in these situations or better off moving on.
I don't mean that to be negative, as I have had to deal with many of those some issues. It's not always easy, and making the "right" decision can be the most difficult. You just have to figure out what's right and then go with it. I wish you both all the best.
This is so so wise. If I had not had this exact conversation with myself 11 years ago, I would not be where I am now. It hurt me deeply, but it was right.... I was in a bad place (not saying that you are at all, just that I was) but I was afraid. Afraid of change, afraid to step into the unknown. I did and it was the absolute perfect correct thing. Husband and I went through this also, 3 years or so into our relationship. We took a break, I moved half way across the country to give us both space to think, and feel. I am sending you both lots of comfort and strength. This stuff sucks!
Delete@DV- - thank you for your words -- M and I have some big challenges -- and I have not always been open about them here
Deletewe'll have to see what will happen.
but we're talking and we'll see
sfp
(hugs) I have no words.
ReplyDeleteI only wish for you peace and wisdom and that you both will find a way.
(((((((HUGS)))))))
ReplyDeleteSending hugs too- sorry for the delay as I was work related away for a few days. You are strong and whatever you and M decide to do will be the right decision.
ReplyDelete~faithful