AVK

(NOTE TO THE READERS -- I'm in a bloggy mood today -- I posted the next chapter of the Lorena/Orion story yesterday -- and you may not have read it yet -- Lorena's in deep y'all.  And a post about last night -- I recommend you read HOPES AND FEARS before this post -- and catch up on Lorena's adventures -- the next chapter goes up around 6pm today)

So -- about this class I took

and I wish I could do it justice

but I was too busy being in the moment to get all the terminology right -- and frankly - -the venue was really difficult for me

there at the dungeon -- there are a lot of distracting sights and sounds

and I was there for the class.

The man who teaches the class is a hypotherapist & life coach -- he mostly does the -- stopsmokinghypnolapband stuff

which -- I don't know how I feel about all of that -- he also does NLP stuff --but -- I'm not really here to write about this

He was talking essentially about how you perceive the world -- and what senses you use to connect with the world -- and what senses you are LEAST connected to.

and it was fascinating.

so think about how you connect with the world -- how you learn -- how you communicate

Audibly -- how things sound, the use of language
Visually -- how they look -- is it visually appealing -- does it have pattern and order
Kinesthetically - -How it feels -- sensation -- touch  -- and not just touch but how it feels emotionally

So we took a quiz that helped you to sort out who you are -- and you can be different things in different situations -- because we have learned to adapt and turn things on and off.

He asked the group to think about who they are in PLAY -- but I just focused on who I am in my normal social life

He then provided us with examples -- he brought up someone who was a KAV -- meaning she is most comfortable with feelings and touch -- and VERY uncomfortable visually -- and made her stand in front of the group

which was visibly painful for her
he didn't torture her for long -- and actually let her turn her back a bit and petted her shoulder so she could relax.

so big shocker

I'm an AVK

I am all about words -- and talking -- and disassociate with touch.

I have a HUGE FUCKING BUBBLE -- and always thought this made me a freak

and people don't get it

I don't want you to touch me unless I trust you
and know it's coming

so it's not that I'm not a hugger
well

it IS that I'm not a hugger
but

that it's overwhelming for me -- it's too much input of something that I have a hard time processing

additionally - it makes touch very special to me

because I don't touch people or allow them to touch me very much.  I can remember almost all of the times when I touch people who are not in the inner circle.

oh

who's in the inner circle?

um

M

and any of the children in my care


yeah

that's it

So I left his class full of "AHA!"

an OH --

because one of the reasons that being at the dungeon is hard on my nerves tis that the room is filled with KVAs and KAVs

who all want to experience their world by touching it

**shudders**

(PS -- as you read the rest of Lorena's adventures -- consider that if I'm AVK -- Lorena's AVK -- and it might just explain why she does the things she does -- (veeeery interesting -- **stroking my imaginary beard))