So
You know I've been frustrated with BB
in a nutshell - you can't ask me to start asking for permission to do everything - but then essentially barely contact me for 5 days.
so when he called tonight
I told him that
I am not sure you have time for me
and
maybe we've rushed things and should just back up and see where things go
and he got defensive
and hurt
he told me that, "I you have doubts, I'll back off - the ball's in your court"
and I told him that "no - the ball's in YOUR court - if you want to see me - you should call me, but right now I'm not even sure if you're interested"
He was frustrated at me
and not really listening
and pretty much pushed me off the phone.
which left me in tears.
I hate hurting someone's feelings
and I hate that I bruised his ego
but
if he can't handle me expressing a concern
telling him that things aren't working right for me?
can he possibly be the right Dom for me?
and I throwing away a perfectly good man
yes
I most likely am
but here's the truth
If I want to be with a man who's not available to see me
who doesn't make time for me
there's a perfectly good one
that I love with all my heart
that I just broke up with
I don't need me another one.
Yep. I suddenly have a man who doesn't have time for me. But I'm invested in him, so I hang around hoping. There's no way I'd get a new man who didn't have time for me. That would be crazy.
ReplyDeleteGo for what you want.
-sin
D sounds like a perfectly nice person...just NOT the dom who will meet your needs...and time is something that is essential at least from the sub p.o.v...and you're so right, sfp. If he hears only critique and not the *concern*...you'd never be able to take issues to him.
ReplyDeleteI am constantly in admiration for your courage and tenacity. He's not "right" but someone will be perfect. Good on you for not settling.
Hugs,
nilla
BB...sorry, got my Doms confused!!
ReplyDeleteI agree with nilla. He might be a nice guy, but he doesn't seem to understand the responsibilities of being a dominant and won't be able to be the Dom you need. Especially if he's not willing to give you his time.
ReplyDelete*hugs*
Turiya
I am sorry your in pain.
ReplyDeleteMen SUCK sometimes.
ditto to all the above.
** hugs**
~faithful
I think he just gets defensive because he knows it's true. I totally agree that you can't expect to have control over things and not even be n touch to oversee what you have control over. From personal experience, that just doesn't work. He may be a great man, but that has absolutely no bearing on whether he can be a good and available Dom for you. I think the ball is in his court, and you have every right to express what you did. He can either choose to be in and involved or not. If he doesn't have the time, then just say so. Just my opinions of course. ;)
ReplyDeleteDV
i LOVE that title. Yes, i'm sorry it didn't work out too, but i think it's ok, because i'm convinced that there is someone just right. Don't know who or when, but i'm totally convinced.
ReplyDeletehugs,
aisha
So sorry! He got defensive because he knew deep down you were right. Just because they can put on the Dom hat doesn't mean that you instantly become a foot rest.
ReplyDeleteTime to find the one that rattles your cage and makes your heart race...
Hugs,
-m
Intteresting read
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