Sunday, December 25, 2011

Conceit and Insecurity

M is having a rough holiday

not with his family
and not with me
and not wanting to be with me
wanting to wallow a bit

which is his choice.

and it's interesting to me
how just one day

one isolated day
of limited contact
of

moodiness on his part

makes me feel

a bit shaken.

and it strikes me that
it's a bit of a combination

of conceit
and insecurity

conceit
that everything

EVERYTHING
I make about me

and insecurity
that one day
of not being the
center of attention

means that it's the beginning of the end.

(laughing)

we are a strange bunch.

7 comments:

  1. Christmas isn't for everyone is it?

    I don't think one day of separation means the beginning of the end, but I can understand that it might feel that way sometimes.

    Wishing you connection.

    -sin

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  2. OMG, i can totally relate to this!!! And thank goodness we can take a step back and recognize that what's happening inside us isn't quite rational, but omigosh, it can be fierce!

    hugs,

    asiha

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  3. I'm okay with no contact for a few days unless there was some kind of tension the last time we were together, then I worry if he doesn't call.

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  4. Don't be too hard on yourself - it may only be one day but at this time of year we are allowed to be a bit " wobbly". Deep breaths. X

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  5. Men are so good at compartmentalizing that a day of separation or disconnect is much easier for them.

    Do something for yourself today to make you feel good.

    Tomorrow will be brighter!

    ~faithful

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  6. Yes, definitely what faithful said, men are very good at compartmentalizing. I know Master totally compartmentalizes me. He only thinks of me when he gets horny, and then he only texts if he has a window of opportunity coming up that day or the next that he wants sex during. He doesn't text just to say hi.

    I, on the other hand, think about him all the time, and have to resist the constant temptation to text just to say I'm thinking about him, or to give him updates on every detail of my life.

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