(commence eye rolling now)
so
the girls are sort of out of control
they've never really had any consequences at all
so I've been thinking about what motivates them
and allowance is on top of the list.
that and trips to Braums
So -- here's what I'm trying
Every day - the girls start in the Green
small offenses get you into the yellow zone: having to be asked to do things over and over (for example) -- being wild - bad manners.
and big offenses get you into the red (cheating, lying, fighting)
and they can earn their way out of red and yellow with extra credit cards -- which involve an apology and a household chore
( I loved when FoxyLoxy said, "what if my room's already clean?" - I didn't say, "I'll die of shock" - -I said, "you'll have to pull another card")
Now - I know you're thinking:
Are you flipping kidding me?
Ground them
Take away privileges
spank them
make them do it
etc etc etc
Groudning and taking away privileges? - involves paperwork
spankings are forbidden
and these kids?
they mostly care about ice cream -- treats -- and allowance.
So -- each green day = $1.00
Each yellow day = $0.50
Each Red day = $0.00
and a trip to Braums requires that BOTH girls have at least 4 green days per week (one of the doesn't? - no trip)
considering we pretty much LIVE in "yellow" -- this will be challenging for them.
So we know have a calendar - and a bunch of green, yellow and red stars
and the girls are committed -- because - they love the idea of being able to earn MORE allowance than they have
and -- it hasn't really occurred to them that if they're bad at the end of the day - -there's no chance to get out of yellow before bedtime.
wahahahahahaha!
seriously?
ReplyDeleteAre you fucking kidding me?
This is FUCKING BRILLIANT!!!
The key is finding what motivates them...and helping them working towards their goals to encourage good behavior is the start.
I sincerely applaud your creative parenting. BRA-fucking-O!!!
*beaming*
nilla
That should say BRA-fucking- VO... I was so excited I was shaking trying to type!
ReplyDeletenilla
It a good way to get the kids thinking and being responserbel for them selfs. One of my girls is sill on the verge of a kino ticket if she does not eat her finger nails, it started a year ago. Good luck
ReplyDeleteLove Ashlyxx
i think it's a marvelous idea. If it works, it works. Even if it works for a little bit, it buys you some time to build the relationship with them that will be the true motivator.
ReplyDeleteSending good parenting energy your way...
Seems to me that nothing works forever, but as Aisha says, "if it works, it works". Use this for as long as it works and then shift to something else...
ReplyDelete-sin
There are far too many people/books/theories out there more than eager to tell us that their parenting idea is the really, truly, absolutely right way. Granted - there are wrong ways to parent. But - seriously - all those kids, all those parents, all those families - and one way has to be the only right one!?! We want our children to learn - to learn that their actions have consequences, good and bad - seems to me that your system lets them learn that from both sides, and that they have the power to change their outcomes. So yea - what nilla said!
ReplyDeletehere, staying in bed all morning (or most of the morning) merits a 20 peso fine. Work has to be done to earn allowance.
ReplyDeleteI like the plan! I think its very motivating- n creative! Good luck.
ReplyDeletethat sounds like a wonderful plan.
ReplyDeleteAnd serious kudos for not saying you'd die of shock if her room was already clean--I would have been unable to resist the urge lol.
Creative and suits the situation!!! They are so lucky to have you....only lets not spring that on them for a while yet..LOL.
ReplyDeletehugs abby