So the little one who is in my home has 2 sisters who are coming into care
I've been asked if I will take them
and
I don't think it's the best plan
but it is a possibility.
there is another foster mom in my area who they are 90% sure will take them
well
they're 100% sure she'll take the 1 yr old
and somewhat sure that she'll take the 4 yr old
and I have consented to take the 4 yr old if she will not
partly because it would be cool
and partly because I really don't believe that these kids are going to go for adoption
so it would be a good trial for me to see how it would work with sibs.
If I don't take all of them
there is a possibility that cps will decide to find a single home for all three and move him
shrugs
I can't control everything
only here's the deal
the prospective foster mom?
Hasn't called them back
and normally she's like me
answering her phone in the potty
soooo ready for her placement
they think she's out of town
so they asked me if I would take all 3 for a few days
and
I said yes
(you could see that coming right? the title was a spoiler)
I've been thinking about sibs for some time now
and flirting with the idea
and
really
what the hell do I know
what do you know until you've been given the chance to see what you can do
so
here shortly
any minute now
they're going to drive up
and bring me 2 additional little ones
1 yr old
and
4 yr old
wanting their mom and dad
and coming to a strange house
this is a good trial
and then
we'll see what happens
I'm jumping on in for sure.
Jumping in yes but perhaps im being over sentimental but oh i think i would have taken the additional 2 as well rather than see them split apart at what already must be a difficult time for them, they will have the security of being with their siblings.
ReplyDeleteGood luck.
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OK, I snorted just the tiniest bit, (she says recalling the times she had all the nephews at once) but you'll do fine down there at the deep end of the pool (once the shock of the jump is passed.)
ReplyDeleteAnd really, how do you say, "No, I won't. Just go ahead and break up that family..." ??
Well, what a good thing you know about newborns now, so you won't have as steep a learning curve. Lol - that's all I've got. And yes maybe you lost your mind a little. But listen, lots of people look after 3 kids, right? Right?
ReplyDelete-sin
well -- the reality is - that they are not all going to the same family. I cannot handle 3 full time. I'm not sure I can do 2 at the same time
ReplyDeletebut for the first few nights -- it's good to have something a bit normal.
I'm exhausted -- and seriously don't know how many nights of this I can reasonably do.
sfp
Oh .. wow! Good luck
ReplyDeleteDear sfp,
ReplyDeleteSending you tons of energy, and calm, and a sense of acceptance of the chaos that is going to be yours for a while. And hugs. Well, not real hugs. Theoretical hugs.
love,
aisha
No matter how exhausting, you will know that you did the right thing for all 3 children in their hour of need.
ReplyDeleteWho knew Jumping On In would mean this....
Love and hugs xxx
I'm not reading other comments before I write this-instead I'm responding to your next post (time loop, anyone?)...about splitting sibs.
ReplyDeleteIt happens. And it's okay. It may not be "ideal"...but speaking as someone who has one of four...it is okay. I'll add that we did try to adopt two of the others...one needed care far in excess of what we could provide (and she's been in residential care ever since-she too was the 'caretaker" of the littles) and another sister was taken by a family member. None of them could care for all 4 either. My son has turned out wonderfully, and remains in contact with his siblings. It's not *easy*...but it was best for all of them, for their own health and well-being, to be separated.
nilla