My Ex is awesome at being an Ex

He totally is

because he takes the EX part of the EXhusband very seriously

he leaves me
completely
utterly alone

completely

ahhhhhh

M's Ex

sigh

I've worked hard to have empathy for her
I usually try to help him to see the other side
and understand her point of view

but here's what happened yesterday

M was free
he was free when we spoke at 1
just after we hung up
she called and asked if he could take the kiddo for 3 hours
starting at 6
then I called with my plan (see last post) to get together
so he called right back
said that he wasn't as free as he thought
and could we try a babysitter

and she freaked out
and

I get that
because she's very jealous of him
so the answer was no -- they don't have a babysitter that can do it

and then (IMHO) -- she decided to make SURE he didn't get to do his other plans

because not only did she drop the kiddo an hour earlier

but as of midnight last night

had still not picked her up
or called

yeah

7 hours later.

You know
when I got divorced
people would say

"good thing you didn't have kids together"

which made me hurt and angry at the time
because
I tried so hard to have kids
and lost so many pregnancies
that I thought the statement was cruel.

not meant to be cruel of course
but hurtful nonetheless

but you know what?
I'm glad I don't have to deal with sharing a child with the Daddy

and yes
when I adopt -- I'll be on my own raising my kids

but I won't have to argue with anyone about how to raise them
I won't have to fight over anything with the kids
or what weekend

I wouldn't have to struggle with Daddy's rules are different
or "I want to go live with Daddy"

and I won't have a vindictive ex

because my EX
is completely EX

Thank you EX.

(as you can tell -- I didn't get my date last night because she never showed up (BTW  -- no sign that something happened to her -- other than just wanting to prove a point to M -- his line of work means he finds out about those things nearly instantly)

sfp