My BFF has a new man
they stayed over last night -- in town for another purpose
silly to get a hotel room
when I have a huge house to share
I made dinner
and
I like this guy
and really thought he was the right person for her
but
he picked up an argument they've been having at dinner
shared it with me
was he trying to get me to agree?
surely not
I would help her bury his body if necessary
I'm hardly the person to get on his side
it was awkward
and embarrassing
she was quiet
and I could feel myself turn quite red
and changed the subject
After they went to bed
I was on the phone with M
talking about it
we're both so private about such things
I couldn't imagine airing a disagreement with him
in public
ever
I could see saying something a bit sharp
and getting a look
and self-correcting
and I wonder if this is part of the whole D/s relationship
that we've established firm rules for our interactions
for our reactions to each other
that makes it easier for us to have avoided such a thing
I cut my talk with M a bit short
since the light in the living room had come on
and the BFF and I sat up
until the wee hours
about the dismantling of her hopes
that this guy was the guy
I wander perhaps that when people do this they are completley oblivious to the discomfort it causes? I had ex years ago who would make comments about me which although he thought were funny and harmless they wasnt, i would get embarrassed and so would the people who were around at the time.
ReplyDeleteI wouldnt like to put someone in the position you were put in and nor would i want to be in that position...yes awkward.
tori
My friend was horribly upset by it --
Deletehe was oblivious
which disturbs me more -- because this is likely just how he is
sad
sfp
I could imagine something like that as some form of humiliation play, and a chance to savor the embarrassment that it might engender but this does not sound like that. Rather it sounds unthinking and callous as you describe it, particularly followed by her arising later in the night.
ReplyDeleteSad to dismantle the hopes, but better now than when a whole relationship had to be dismantled. Sad.
David
lol
Deletethe BFF is as vanilla as they come
but play that makes your host uncomfortable -- would be bizarre.
we'll see how it plays out
but my friend deserves better
It's hard isn't it? What a difficult position to be put into.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
mouse
@mouse -- yes -- it was icky
ReplyDeletesfp
don't you hate when your friends date guys you don't like? Booo!
ReplyDeleteIt's so disappointing when you realize, "No, not this one," but better now than later. At least that's my thought. I'm glad she has you for support.
ReplyDeletehugs,
aisha
Sigh -- and apparently a big fight and walk out last night --
ReplyDeletepoor kiddo.
sfp
So sorry for your friend.
ReplyDeleteI would have looked at him and said "surely you jest? Why are you bringing this to me? Do I look like Dr. Ruth here? Isn't it time for you to grow up, pull up your big boy pants and deal? Get the fuck over it, dude."
but then again, i'm known to be an asshole.
:)
nilla