M called from his conference to check on me and the Little Don
How's it going baby?
Not too bad -- I only declared myself the worst mom ever once
really baby? WORST mom ever? already? what happened
oh - you know he was circumcised and it's still healing
yeah....
well -- You put vaseline on a bit of gauze to protect his penis from sticking to the diaper
and I didn't put enough on
so on the second diaper change it was stuck and I had to pull it off --
baby
yeah?
stop telling this story -- I'm 41 and it's hurting me.
oh sweetie, it's okay. Being a mom isn't a race to the finish line. It's trial and error. It's learning from things that don't work for your kid. It's doing your best. Things are never "perfect". Some days you have to take the baby to the grocery store when he's tired or crying or sick or... and even if you don't need groceries you need some damn baby thing like diapers and...
ReplyDeleteI think we become the parents our kids need. We develop in response to them. Just think, moms of just girls never learn that vaseline thing at all.
You are a great mom. Already.
-sin
Aww Thanks Sin --
ReplyDeleteMostly -- M made me laugh really hard at his reaction to my story
we had a rough night -- I'm going to call my Mom to come over so I can get some sleep -- Thank God my parents are here -- otherwise I might just go to vegas and get married to the next guy that comes along just to get some help
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Ha - when I had my second, I realized I had forgotten (somehow!) the worst of the sleep thing. I couldn't wait to get out of the hospital and get home so my husband could help look after the baby. Why did I think that would be easier than nurses helping?
ReplyDeleteThe sleep deprivation is brutal for the first while. I think the worst is til they are 6 weeks old. Then it gets a bit better, and better again after abt 12 weeks.
I'm sure you've heard stories about not sleeping, but it's different when suddenly you are living it, and you don't even realize til someone points it out, THIS is what they were talking about.
-sin (who was an older and tired mom)
i'm laughing ~ read it to Sir, and He wasn't.... which made me laugh.
ReplyDeleteIt's good to get the "worst mom ever" thing out of the way right away. Reduces the pressure.
You're a wonderful mom. And ~ here's some good news ~ he won't remember the stuck penis. It's like a grace period. We can warp them now, but they won't remember and can't remind us later.... lol
What Sin said about sleep? Yeah. Exactly.
hugs.
aisha
I must admit--I laughed at your M's reaction.
ReplyDeleteAnd I have accumulated a large stack of worst mom awards. Some even given officially by my eldest child. Those moments don't make us bad--they make us moms.
So I'll tell you about my first award:
Our son was about a week old. It was the first day we brought him home after spending that week at my parents house. At the time, we had a huge, very sweet wolf hybrid who was terrified of men, including my husband(he weighed about 150-175 LB).
I brought my brand new lovely baby home, set him on the couch all wrapped up, and that animal, running from my husband, ran straight to the couch. He jumped up on it and lay down over the sleeping baby. I couldn't even See the baby.
And I just knew that I was the worst mother earth had ever seen. I knew that was the end of my gorgeous long-awaited boy.
I got the animal off, and through my panicked tears realized that he had been crouching. He hadn't even so much as touched the little one.
And I knew that I wasn't quite the worst mom ever.
There were later a couple of falls out of bed, and the time I zipped his penis up in his pants. Which unfortunately, he was old enough to remember and will never let me live down.
I guess the point is, those moments are just part of the package--every mom on earth has had some of them (and if they say they haven't, they lie!)
Sometimes it does feel like you will never sleep again, but that isn't true. Promise!
Hope you get some rest today. Grandparents can be totally awesome.
In a harried mom rush, trying to get 700 things done before dinner, I sent my 7 year old into the grocery store with money for milk, while I ran into the pharmacy at the other end of the center with the three year old. I was all the way home when I realized I had left the 7 year old behind. There he was with his 2 gallons of milk waiting patiently in front of the store. I only live 1/2 mile away ,so he never knew.
ReplyDeleteEven when he is 13 and tells you at the top of his voice that you are a terrible mom, you aren't, because you are doing your very best for him. And the sticky penis thing? Not only will he not remember, but he'll get back at you with it too. He's a boy, you will be pee'd on. I promise. :)
:)
ReplyDeleteYour M makes me smile, for real.
There's a huge learning curve here...look at what you've accomplished already.
Trust me..half of parenting is second-guessing. You're doing fine, I know you are. I dropped my son when he was around 3 or 4 months old...he was squirming and slipped right out of my arms. I remember scooping him up, checking him all over (he was startled, but unharmed) and then sinking to the floor, cradling him and bawling my eyes out. Worst. Mother. Ever.
It's a roller-coaster ride to be sure!
hugs,
nilla
Awwww. Poor you...because yanno, he'll never remember it and you'll never forget it -- the joys of motherhood.
ReplyDeleteThe sleep thing was the absolute worse....
Lastly, your not in anyway the worlds worst mom. That award goes to mouse...who just this morning watched her daughter roll off the sofa. Plop on the floor.
Ya mouse was seated right beside her when it happened.
Hugs,
mouse
oh laughing hard here but as others have said it happens to us all.
ReplyDeletemy confession, i left my 4 week old son in his pram outside a shop, remembered to take the dog which was waiting outside but not the baby! half way home before i realised..thankfully live in a small community and the shop owner brought pram into store.
Its all part of the process, lots of highs, lots of laughs and the few oops moments but the oops moments happen to everyone.
tori x
Oh my goodness!
ReplyDeleteSo I just read all your lovely stories and sat here -- holding the sleeping Don and giggling quietly -- tears streaming down my face
not just because your stories made me laugh
but because I am so touched that all of you wanted to shore up this new mommy's confidence.
you guys are wonderful.
really -- I thought I was just writing a funny penis story
instead -- I got a lot of love an support from my friends
hugs
sfp