Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Fucking Up

I am thinking about fucking up
not

wee little errors or mistakes

but class A fuck ups

the things that can destroy your credibility
make people question you
and what you're all about

I have someone who works with me
who's been there for well over 10 years
someone who's stellar

who just really really fucked up
majorly

almost destroying everything in her life with her fuck up

she's getting help
and she called me today
in my official HR capacity

worried
upset

destroyed
about her colossal fuck up
(her words -- not mine)

and I asked her
"who would we be if we threw away 10 years because you fucked up once?"

M and I talked about it on the way home
royal fuck ups

and the prices we pay for them

and whether someone can forgive and move on
or not

I think I want to live in a world where fuck ups are forgiven
where we look at the whole history
instead of a moment
and weigh a whole person
instead of a mistake

talking to her made me think hard about it
and how much I hope
that when I fuck up
someone will see me
and not just a mistake.


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7 comments:

  1. mouseMay 29, 2012 at 11:57 PM

    Sfp,

    That is soooo powerful! And colossal fuck-ups are something mouse knows a bit about...

    And you're right...sooo right.

    Hugs you tight
    m

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  2. VestaMay 30, 2012 at 2:56 AM

    Absolutely right. If she just embezzled the company's fund and sent it into bankruptcy and you have all lost your jobs it isn't going to be too easy to forgive her. But, she sounds very sorry for whatever she did and up to then had a wonderful decade long track record. If we applied such a rigid code to members of family and loved ones we'd be in very bad shape as a world. Forgiveness is all important.

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    1. strivingforpeaceMay 30, 2012 at 5:01 AM

      yes -- and her fuck up was only by her own standards
      she did nothing to hurt others

      I just wanted to hug her
      and wanted to hang on to this moment
      and remember
      that we have to forgive people
      and sometimes
      we have to forgive ourselves

      sfp

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  3. AnonymousMay 30, 2012 at 5:48 AM

    Sigh... i can relate to her. Still harder to forgive myself than others.

    i would forgive you a whole lot...

    aisha

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  4. sinMay 30, 2012 at 6:43 AM

    I guess it depends on what someone does and how much it hurts the people around them. If, as you say, it only hurt herself, then it shouldn't be impossible to forgive, though forgetting might be harder. Depends...

    And I cam imagine going to you with troubles.

    -sin

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  5. dancingbarezMay 30, 2012 at 3:33 PM

    This definately gives a person something to think. It is harder to forgive yourself than others. She is lucky that she had you to go to for some reassurance.

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