More on the outing

So -- M started to think that the Horrible Woman (HW) who threatened to contact his wife (because she doesn't know that they've been apart for several years now -- although still married) and his employer was bluffing.

but no.

and it seems apparent that what she did -- was forward emails between HW and M to M's Ex.

when you think about this logically
this really isn't any new information.

the Ex knows that M cheated on her -- the affair he had dates from before his meeting HW.

But the Ex has held on to the hope
the illogical belief
that somehow the two of them will reconcile.

although how she thinks they would reconcile when she is still so very very angry....when even their therapist thought they were irreconcilable.

it's been a hope of hers
even now
when they are finishing up negotiations on the divorce.

the HW doesn't know they are divorcing

and so -- to exact her revenge?
to get attention?
to punish M?

she sent their correspondence (how much of it?  what did it say? -- only the Ex and HW know)

and

honestly -- it's just about the meanest thing I think someone could do.

because

the Ex isn't the devil
she's just a woman who had the rug pulled out from underneath her who doesn't have the coping skills to accept the change -- process the emotion and move on.

she's a woman who is already too trapped by her own anger.

and now the HW has come and poured gasoline on it
has mad her hurt
her anger
her feeling of betrayal

fresh and new

it was cruel

and I can't even call it self serving
because HW doesn't get anything she wants from this.

sure -- M is punished
but an innocent is punished so much more
and HW has nothing left to punish him with

sure
HW could sent that same stuff to his work
but they would just delete it
they might roll their eyes a bit
but they know that he's getting divorced

I guess I'm writing this because I just struggle with why someone would do something so mean spirited with so little to gain from it.

it makes me sad