I found a pile of old photos
happy times -- some of them
sometimes I look back and my marriage and the end of the marriage drowns out the beginning
we had many happy times
don't get me wrong -- we had many unhappy times
we had fights
and we had cold battles
and we had lies and deception
we had no money
and we had struggles with fertility
we had loss
we also had each other
we were friends
we made each other laugh
so as I see us in old photos -- they make me smile
his cheezy horrible mustache that I nagged out of existence
it's easy to only remember the bad times
after we had grown apart
when we stopped being friends
and became roommates
but once upon a time
we were happy -- and I'm glad I remember it.
That is one of the truly great things about time. It blunts the bad but leaves the good relatively untouched. A much better lens through which to contemplate our lives.
ReplyDeleteYep, I can totally relate to that. The times I think, oh, yeah, that's why I married him, I wasn't just a complete dumb ass! lol.
ReplyDeleteaisha
All relationships should be celebrated for the good things they bring, or brought, to our lives. I agree with Jz..- better to remember the good than let the bad drown it out.
ReplyDeleteThanks you guys -- the photos made me feel warm -- and then you guys did again too
ReplyDeletejust reading this, as i have come to terms with the half-life i'm living...a marriage that struggles...with no true emiotion, or physical loving...
ReplyDeletethis made me happy for you.
i've been looking at photos in my mind, key things that wife and i have shared over the years...and feel that same sense of "wow, that was so good"...
this post made me feel better.
so thanks ...
nilla
I'm glad it helped my friend --
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