On the hook

At work this week -- I had to coach one of my teammates.

She leaves job candidates on the hook


I told her it was like this episode of How I Met Your Mother -- Lily keeps trying to tell her old boyfriend scooter that things are over -- but he looks so sad - -she always adds "right now" to make him feel better.  In this clip she practices breaking up with the something cute.

My staff member A does this, "we don't have a position for you at this time -- we'll let you know if anything changes in the future".

Every day
Every day

she has a candidate who calls her and leaves her a message

it feel like this:

she's left him on the hook

and coincidentally -- I got a message online from someone who was in consideration some time back.  I threw him back in the pond because he was married -- with no intent to divorce --

and now -- they're separated.

sigh

and i've chatted with him from time to time -- because I

ok

big admission here

it's very important to me that people think I'm nice

it's part of my self-image

sfp is nice

really nice

except

(ahem -- I'm not always nice -- I'm sometimes a horrible bitch)

but I have a hard time setting boundaries and saying "Nice to have met you -- see ya"

without adding a "right now"

and while I've said that I'm seeing someone -- I'm not good at cutting off conversation -- he'll ask if we can chat as friends

and then

he's going to push

so I should just cut him off and be mean

but honestly

I find it tough to be mean

it makes me feel bad.

maybe I need to practice on a teacup pig.