Hulabaloo

Goodness - there's a whole bunch of judging out there in our corner of the internet these days

about cheating or not cheating
about married partners
and lovers

and about acceptance
or the evil of acceptance of others

and it all started with a comment of disdain for the high level of tolerance of infidelity in the D/s world

so after I just said to Aisha
that I don't have anything to say

I guess I do have a little something to say

I think for many of us
discovering that we were kinky
was shocking

it was something
IS something to hide

it was a dirty secret
this urge to submit
or to dominate

the urge to hurt or be hurt
the urge to control or be controlled

it's all the things we're taught are wrong and bad

it's often something we can't/couldn't say to our vanilla partners

but it was/is an urge
a burning need

So the question I think many face is
what do you do?

do you throw it all away?

do you throw away your husband
and your kids
and your family

do you walk away
because you have a need that must be met?

this one little thing
that isn't a luxury
it's essential.

so so many
either push away the cravings
and try to bury it

and others
others find a way to meet the need
and keep from destroying the lives of wives and husbands and kids

a closeted solution
in a world that thinks you're damaged to want what you want

I get it

so
why do I think so many in BDSM have compassion and acceptance for it?
because we get it

we get that it's an itch that must be scratched

and I for one
don't feel that I can judge anyone

here in my glass house.