There are a ton of cool things about blogging
the community for one -- the relationships that are built -- even the introspection -- there's something about putting your inner most thoughts out there for all to see that makes you really think about what you think about.
All in all -- blogging is good for my soul
I don't however - think blogging is good for my dating life
which makes it tough
as I don't like the idea of having something secret from my partner
but I also don't like the idea of censoring anything that I say here -- I think it's dishonest.
that being said -- I do censor a lot -- there are things I don't share -- or 1/2 share -- not everything that happens in my life is mine to tell -- and some things are just incidental -- and don't pertain to the story at hand.
At any rate -- how does blogging make you uncool?...
more specifically -- how does blogging make ME uncool.
Well -- if you're uber confident -- and never waffle or worry -- then you can come off as a pretty cool cat when blogging
I don't know if I want to READ your blog -- but I imagine you're cool - I bet people like you -- are attracted to your confidence etc.
In the dating world -- being a waffler is the kiss of death -- we have to show that we're confident all the time -- almost diffident -- "Hey man -- you're ok - but I can take you or leave you" -- indecision is a sign of weakness
weakness must be mocked and shunned.
And when I blog? I put it all out there -- pettiness-- weakness -- fear -- emotion -- weakness -- jealousy -- it's all out there
and here's the thing
the way you read me here?
a worrier -- a joker -- sensitive -- unsure -- finding myself -- and even (how did Sin put it to me) a bit tart
that's me
that's really really me
so that cool diffident person that can take it or leave it?
If you think you're getting her -- ever? she's imaginary
this is the girl you get
this one
not that other one
THIS one
but know that when I find that right partner -- either for life -- or for right now -- he's going to be the one that likes THIS girl
This mixed up worrier
This passionate partner
This blogger
THIS girl.
He's the only one worth having, that guy...
ReplyDeleteThere are a lot of nice things to be other than "cool". Personally, I think "cool" is over-rated. After all, it's all about the façade, which is not really that interesting. Your beauty is not skin-deep.
ReplyDeleteYikes, Sfp, did something happen to bring this on?
ReplyDeleteYes, what Jz said - he's worth waiting for too.
I know I said you were in the cool kids club but I didn't mean that kind of cool, ya know... Nobody's really that kind of cool, at least I don't think so.
We love you, and He will too. Just the way you are. Passionate waffler, worrier, and tart woman. Um, tart in the way Sin meant it.
aisha :)
Yeah but don't you think all that makes us cool? That we are real and smart and funny and erudite and sexy and interesting?
ReplyDeleteAnd tart was in opposition (good opposition) to too sweet.
All
ReplyDeletethanks for the support --
Love you guys
sfp
You are us...we are you...
ReplyDeletedunno if you read kaya (underhishand.com)...the first time i read she was shy? i was blown away. This confident, uber kewl goddess of slavery was shy? shy to the point of being speechless in public?
We all have our doubts our...fears...our worries...a blog is a safe entity to express all that in...
and IRL? when you find "the Guy"...he'll want all of you, fully.
being "cool"...overrated.
(i've never never never never ever been the cool gal IRL...i'm terribly shy until i get to know you...)
nilla